I was asked to define what the word “sexy” means to me.
At first, to be honest, I was a little worried that I wouldn’t be able to write about this subject because this word is a funny word to describe in my dictionary. I find the word “sexy” to be a word that means a whole bunch of different things to different people. For instance, some may say that being sexy requires a woman to have big boobs and a nice butt, and a man to have some very chiseled abs. Others may say that to be sexy, you must be completely covered up from head to toe with the upmost amount of modesty.
I had to sit back and think for quite some time what characteristics I could think of that would define what “sexy” means to me. Then one day, I finally got it!
Sexy to me is being: courageous, strong, funny, intelligent, positive, open-minded, and is able to self-indulge. If I see these characteristics in another person, I am in absolute awe.
People who are courageous, in my opinion, seem to have this ability to take on anything and everything without a second thought. No matter what obstacles may seem to be in their way, they will figure out a solution, even if it means getting down into the nitty-gritty (which is something I’ve noticed some people do not like to do. Confrontation can be scary…), in order to get what they want in life.
When I was a child, and even now, I would always look up to the people who knew what they wanted in life and actually went for it; no matter their age, or the unfortunate situations they would always seem to fall into that would nearly stop them from achieving their dreams. These determined, courageous people would not allow a single thing or person to stop them from getting what they know they deserve.
I would always wonder to myself, as a child, if I would ever get the chance to achieve my own personal dreams and desires.
And I kept that thought process until I realized that I shouldn’t be waiting on someone else to give me the chance to live out the life that I wanted, I have to make my own opportunities and chances. Since I realized that, life has been filled with less “what if’s” and excuses. You have to be courageous and determined to strive for the life that you want.
Now, in order to keep up your new courageous and determined attitude, you’ve gotta be strong and willing to fail every now and then.
Each failure we go through in life should not stop us in our tracks from the life that we want, but should instead push us forward even more than before, because each failure is an assurance that we are getting closer and closer to attaining what we want. A life without failure doesn’t teach us how to be determined and strong. A life without failure would teach us that everything will be served on a silver platter without us having to lift a finger (Though that would be nice and all every once in a while).
Strong people have been to hell and back, and will do everything in their power not to end up back in the dumps, which helps them to thrive.
One of the most important characteristics of sexiness is to be funny, and to have a sense of humour!
I wonder how people who do not know how to laugh survive in this world? My family will take some very dark and deep situations and put their little Jamaican sarcasm into it to put a smile on everyone’s faces. (Though they do bring out that sarcasm and humour at the wrong time sometimes, everyone still garners a new smile).
I find guys who know just what to say to make me laugh, cause me to feel such an attractive pull towards them. And the friendships that have lasted the longest in my life are with the people who make me bawl my eyes out from cracking up so much! Doesn’t everyone just love to be around happy, humorous people? They are such a good time to be around!
The final three characteristics tie in together.
In order to be intelligent, and not in a smart-ass kind of way, you must be open-minded and able to hear other people’s opinions about various topics, even the ones that you don’t agree with, in order to become knowledgeable about the world we live in. I find that when I simply listen to others and observe, I learn so much about them, myself, and the world.
And in order to be open-minded, you must have a more positive outlook on life. The positive people in my life, are wise and intelligent, because they took the time to observe and listen with an open mind (because they know that everyone’s opinions count), which allowed them to gain the intelligence that they now have.
Regarding self-indulgence, which is something everyone needs to take part in, I think speaks for itself. Treat. Your. Self. You deserve it!
At the end of the day, sexy has a different meaning for everyone. And the simplest form of sexiness to me is by not giving two hoodie-hoots about what other people think of you.
Just be you, that is the ultimate sexy.
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